... as usual, from serenejournal
, my survey supplier.1. Do you still talk to the person you lost your virginity to?
Nope, but I would be happy to talk with him if I ran into him, as unlikely as that is. And I didn't lose my virginity. I hurled it at him.
I lost my virginity twice. Once with a man, at age 22. And then again, with a woman, at age 28. Each time felt like crossing a boundary into a whole new territory, so each time I felt like a virgin.
Oh... right, do I talk to them? :) No, I don't talk to either one.2. Is it harder to be rejected or to reject someone else?
For me, it's much harder to reject someone else.
Oh, being rejected, no question! Not to say I don't hate rejecting others. But I've never gone into a two-year depression after rejecting someone, whereas being rejected has laid me flat out on several occasions.3. What kind of music did you listen to in elementary school?
My parents played a lot of Joan Baez; Kris Kristofferson; and Peter, Paul, & Mary. My dad played lots of Elton John when my mom wasn't around. My sister played Tony Defranco, the Osmonds, and lots of other '70s pop music. I don't remember seeking out music independently, but I was always in choir and music classes, so whatever we were singing/playing was likely to be on my mind.
First grade: "Puff the Magic Dragon". Over and over and over. My parents had a record player that had an auto repeat. I used to hold onto a pole in our basement with one hand, and spin round and round while the song played over and over, for hours. (There was a reason I was doing this in the basement. :))
Fourth grade: The Beatles came ashore in the USA. Changed my life completely. After that I was glued to the radio listening to all the pop/top 40 music I could. By 6th grade I had a little transistor radio that I never went anywhere without.
My mother liked classical music, so I also grew up listening to that, mostly orchestral stuff. Dad liked folk and "female vocalists" (eg, Liza Minelli, Lana Cantrell), and also some musical theater stuff. Two of my favorites were Tom Lehrer's "That Was the Year that Was" and the soundtrack to "Fiddler on the Roof".4. What is the best thing about your current job?
I get to spend my workdays with someotherguy.
And I'm paying my debts, yay!8. Where are you going on your next vacation?
Probably San Diego to see family, but besides that, I'm planning on Vegas in February for alt.polycon.
Elderflower, a women's spirituality retreat, in August.9. Have you ever thrown up from working out?
No. I can't even imagine it.
WTF?10. Are most of the friends in your life new or old?
It's a mix. I'm still in regular contact with two of my oldest friends -- I met C when I was 11, and A when I was 14. Most of my friends, though, are probably people I met after I got online in 1998, but I'm not sure if 9 years counts as old or new friends.
I used to be really good at keeping old friends, but now I've lost touch with so many people. I'm OK with it for most of my ex-friends - those relationships didn't work any more. But I am missing a few people a lot, and I need to find a way to restablish contact (emotionally, not logistically).11. Have you ever gotten so wasted you didn’t know what was going on?
No, I've never gotten wasted.
Well, a couple of times in high school I got sufficiently drunk to end up passed out in bed. Mostly, though, I'm not one for getting wasted. 13. Are you touchy-feely?
With family I am. With friends, I do hello/goodbye hugs and that's about it.
I love being around touchy-feely people, but I tend to be shy about initiating it, so I let other people set the tone. If they are comfortable with it, then I am. If they're not, I don't push it.15. Do you prefer the tanning bed or the sun?
I like being out in the sun, but I don't intentionally tan.
I've never tried a tanning bed - eww. I used to love to be in the sun and get tanned, but I've been successfully scared off doing that, so now I sit in the shade, or apply gobs of 1000 SPF sunblock.17. What could you tolerate...someone who snores or a sleep walker?
I assume this means "as a partner" or "to sleep with." I can tolerate either. Snoring is safer.
LOL, snoring might be safer, but you've never shared a bed with my ex. :)18. Do you consider yourself bi-polar?
No, nor have I been diagnosed as such.
??? Isn't this a rather specific diagnosis? Either you have it or you don't. Considering yourself to have BPD would be kind of like "considering yourself" to have, say, Cystic Fibrosis. :) It's not really a matter of opinion...19. What's something your friends make fun of you for?
My friends mock me gently for being a slut and for being unsubtle/brash, but don't often make fun of me, period.
I get teased for the hours at which I (1) go to sleep at night, (2) get up in the "morning", and (3) eat various meals. This has gone on for years and is beyond tedious! (For some reason, the teasing doesn't feel affectionate to me. But maybe it is, and I'm just a big grump.)20. What's your worst personality flaw?
Um, hmm. Shouldn't this question go to someone else? I don't feel qualified to answer it. I mean, whatever I think is wrong with me is probably not what others consider to be my main flaws. I don't know... chronic lateness?21. Have you ever gone to therapy?
A more pertinent question would be, "Have you ever spent time not
in therapy?" :) I'm currently not in therapy, which is relatively rare in my life.22. Would you ever parachute off of a plane?
Probably not unless it were to save my life.
Ditto!24. Are you Irish in any way?
I think so. My dad says his heritage is English/Irish/German/Dutch.
Er... I'm from Boston? :)
I don't think there's any Irish in my considerably mixed heritage. (I consider myself to be a "Jewish Euro-mutt", and can claim Romanian, Russian, English, Scottish, German and Norwegian ancestors.)25. Have you ever ridden in a U-Haul?
No, but I've driven one.26. Do you like to play Scrabble?
Yes, but I never win.
Nope. I find it boring.27. Have you ever been to a nude beach?
Yes. I tend to get naked easily. Ocean beaches around here tend to be places where one would wear sweaters, though, so it's not my usual naked place.
Hell, yeah. One local nude beach is Muir Beach in ... wherever it is. :) (It's in Marin County, California - don't know which town.) On one uncharacteristically hot and sunny day back in 1992, I did go swimming at the nude section of that beach. The water was very warm and comfy, too, and I stayed in for a long time. This must have been an El Nino year!29. Have you ever had sex on the beach?
Not the drink, but yes on the act.
Ditto. (What's in
that drink, anyway?)33. Does the number of people a person's slept with affect your opinion of them?
No, though sometimes I boggle at folks' choices.
What's with people and their judgements about this? (Not serenejournal
's answer - I mean the question.) I've noticed on TV, for example, that one of the worst things someone can call a young woman is a "slut". In this day and age?? And with all the sex on TV?
That said, I think I am affected by it, although not in the usual way. When I meet someone who's slept with a lot of people, I tend to think, "There's someone who's really experienced. I'll bet he/she has a good sense of what he/she likes in a lover/partner." And when I meet someone who's had very little sexual experience, I might be tempted to project some of my negative self-image onto them. I've gotten shit from some people because I have less experience, in terms of the number
of people I've had as lovers, than most. That's a whole rant in itself, which I will save for another post.34. Have you ever gone to a party where you were the only sober person?
I have no idea. At most parties I attend, many people are sober, or everyone is.
I have been to parties where everyone (or most everyone) is smoking weed. I don't smoke, so sometimes I'm the only non-stoned person there. It's sort of fun - suddenly my humor is very
witty. :) I don't tend to hang out with people who drink heavily, though. Drunks aren't that interesting.35. What do you do when you spot a bug in your house?
Usually, I leave it alone. We don't get many bugs here; I suspect the spiders keep them in check.
Depends on the bug. Spiders - I usually leave them alone unless I suspect it's a black widow. I kill those because I worry that they might kill one of my cats. The cats love to stalk and play with spiders, so that's a distinct possibility. If I find a spider in my bed, I'm not thrilled about it, but I'll usually brush it off rather than kill it.
Ants - unfortunately, I do kill the occasional lone ant I find in my apartment. If it were just that one ant, I wouldn't mind. But give them an inch... and they'll invite 10,000 of their friends in.
Pretty much any other bug I leave alone. They provide endless amusement for the kitties.* Current Music: earworm (Backroads Tennessee, Shawn Colvin)
I love this song! Also "Round of Blues", on the same album.